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WORKAHOLISM, The Well Dressed Addiction (part 3)

3. Workaholics don't necessarily enjoy their jobs.
Although many do enjoy their jobs, this isn't always the case. Often the reason the workaholic got into a particular profession in the first place is gone, for example they may have started doing the job out of a love for architecture, but then become a supervisor and never design again. They may have been promoted into a management position, which does not suit them. Also, it's not that they love the job as much as they need the escape from intimacy that the work provides.

4. Cutting back on work hours will not solve the problem.
Just because a workaholic isn't sitting behind their desk does not mean that they aren't thinking about work. Workaholics will be wishing they were at work during their kid's baseball game or while having sex. The amount of hours spent at work no more determines a workaholic than the amount of drinks determines an alcoholic. It is different for each individual. Why is it so hard to change? Primarily because their whole identity is wrapped up in work. Most people have to do some work. It is not like alcoholism where complete abstinence is the solution. It is about changing rigid black and white thinking. It's about liking yourself faults and all. It's about slowing down, letting go of anger, putting balance into their lives, being able to laugh at yourself and getting priorities straight.

The advantages to changing this addictive behavior include:

Developing skills to become a much better and accessible supervisor and increasing productivity. Having the ability to see the whole picture while earning the respect of colleagues, who will see that you are able to put the job in perspective.

Finding self worth in things other than work accomplishments. Learning new hobbies and expanding your horizons. Being a better-balanced individual.

Improved communication skills. Not to speak of obtaining happier well rounded relationships that actually have give and take.

Having the courage to take the risk of being vulnerable. This leads to love and intimacy, and ultimately offers more fulfilling relationships.

Improved parenting skills, so that the children do not suffer the consequences of being raised by an addictive parent.

Stop the arrogance/low self esteem contradictory dance that never actually meets ones needs. Loving yourself faults and all.

However, this is a tall order when your entire self worth is wrapped up in what you accomplish at work. The worth comes from enhanced family life, broader more far-reaching interests and respect of co-workers.